Re-entering the world after having a baby
The idea of re-entering the “real world” when your family has recently grown is overwhelming. You’ve just given birth, you’re in the midst of postpartum hair loss and hormones and things are a bit topsy turvy. And while you crave social interaction and a return to normalcy, you also don’t know what to expect or how to go about returning to life with your newest little one in tow. It’s all too tempting to stay home and let the world pass you by. But don’t let these feelings keep you cooped up in doors! The Long Beach community has so much to offer that is family friendly - your options are nearly endless!
I remember when we brought our 3rd baby home the thought of getting out seemed nearly impossible. I decided to start out with little trips (not on any type of schedule by the way) and with each outing it all seemed a little more doable, a little less daunting and I gained confidence each time. One of the cheats I found that worked for me was to put my older two children in an inline double stroller and put the baby on my chest in a carrier. Double strollers have a come a long way and we absolutely love our Britax B-ready that has since been discontinued, however I have seen that UPPAbaby and Baby Jogger City Select strollers have come out with options that offer both kids the chance to see out and around and a little more family friendly flexibility. These new strollers have really made getting out as a growing family so much easier.
Here’s what I recommend: start with something simple like taking the dog out for a walk or inviting a friend over for a stroll around the neighborhood. If you have an older child along for the walk there are great ways to include them and let them feel like big helpers. If you have a toddler, slowing down the pace for a short walk around the block can allow them to help you push the stroller. Bigger kids can help hold the leash or walk the dog while you push the baby in the stroller. Another method to take the walk with a little less equipment is to slip your baby into a baby carrier, like an Ergo Baby, ring sling, or Moby wrap. This frees up your hands to hold your older child’s hand and walk the dog. These options work great for families of all sizes.
If you aren’t ready for all that, invite a friend to your favorite local coffee shop (we love Viento y Agua!) for a low-key, low commitment outing. Coffee is great for easing back into life with a new baby because it’s quick and easy. If you’re feeling good stay for an hour or more, but if sh*t hits the fan and your kids (or you) have a meltdown, you can take your coffee to go and head home.
Once you’re ready to move on from a simple neighborhood walk, try checking out Rosie’s Dog Beach. This beach offers you a chance to let your dog get out and run the beach and play in the water, while you get a chance to be out in the fresh air soaking up some vitamin D.
Ready to make a day of being out with the family? The Colorado Lagoon Loop, is a great option that offers multiple options for activities. The one mile loop can be completed on a stroller-friendly sidewalk and you can stop for a rest afterwards while your kids play at the playground. The Eldorado Lake Loop is also a great option!
If it’s particularly hot (or on the less likely chance that it’s a rainy day) and you want to get out while staying inside, head to the aquarium to captivate your kiddos imaginations and get their legs moving. Aquarium of the Pacific is sure to excite everyone, with animals ranging from some of my family’s favorites, sea otters and octopus, to jelly fish and even frogs. The whole family will be able to find a favorite creature and learn all about what makes them so unique. Seeing the world through the eyes of your child is something that never gets old. Bonus: the dark tunnels make it a great option for encouraging your baby to nap!
If you’re still moving slow and want to limit the walking, head to We Rock the Spectrum on Lakewood Blvd. This “Autism-friendly” indoor gym has so much to offer your little ones. They have daily open play where your kiddos can explore and engage in safe sensory play.
The big thing to remember is getting out is possible it just takes some creativity, patiences and maybe a little ingenuity… but truly, you’ve got this! Start small and keep realistic expectations of what you can do. And never forget that asking for help is not a sign of weakness and can be your greatest ally.